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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

20 week check in

I've passed the halfway point in my pregnancy! So exciting!

A lot has happened in the past week:
1. Echo -- on Monday, Bambina Buckner had an echo to make sure her heart is developing normally. For mysterious reasons, ICSI babies have higher rates of heart defects. I'm happy to report that the cardiologist could find nothing wrong with our baby's heart! And I think he doesn't get many referrals where there's nothing wrong because he really kept looking and looking for something to be wrong (I think to make sure he wasn't just missing it). It seemed very thorough. And of course, great news!

2. Doula -- we have contracted with a doula. And I love her! DH and I met with her a couple of weeks ago and both feel very good about working with her. She'll be there for the delivery and will start helping us prep for it as we get closer to the due date. She also runs support groups for pregnant women/new moms that I attend each month so I get to see her there. She's so supportive of women and the birthing process and of women's choices (i.e., she doesn't seem dogmatic concerning one form of birth vs another -- rather she seems to primarily support women's right to choose our birth plan and to be an active participant in decisions regarding our care). From friends who've worked with her, we've also learned that she's there just as much for dad as for mom so will be there to support DH during the delivery as well -- both in terms of helping him help me as well as to support what DH will be going through during the delivery. I feel so good about having her on board.

3. We're changing our OB -- long story short, we had an interaction with the newbie OB that was the final straw. Not only do I not trust this OB (she made decisions about my care without checking with me, told me wrong info about how to test prenatally to see if our bambina has CF ) but her nurse and office staff do not provide the type of care to patients that I think we deserve (kept us waiting for over 1.5 hours for an OB appointment without info regarding how much longer the wait would be and wouldn't use that time for bloodwork etc, wouldn't let us reschedule, got VERY angry with me when I asked whether we could do some of this). So DH and I started looking into new OBs. And we were happily surprised to find out that the best birth center in the city is now in-network for me!!! So bye-bye newie OB with your rude office staff. We're off to see the best in town and be treated at a birth center which will be a much more pleasant experience for the delivery anyway.

I was so worried that I was going to be stuck with newbie OB (bc my insurance didn't really cover other practices and her practice has a policy of no changing OBs within the practice) and I really was not trusting her so was nervous about the quality of my prenatal care and scared for if anything goes wrong during the delivery.

So things are really working out and coming together.  I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. It feels surreal But so exciting!!!

Wednesday, November 9, 2011


So I woke up at 4:30AM this morning and can't get back to sleep. I went to sleep at 10PM last night bc I was EXHAUSTED. I think I may be fighting a cold. And I was exposed to pneumonia over the weekend so trying to rest my body so I don't get that. So why am I awake? I don't feel anxious. Is this a symptom of pregnancy (I don't usually have any kind of insomnia problems)? Must track down "What to Expect" - somewhere in the dark around here...

In fun news - I can feel the baby moving! I've been able to feel her move the past couple of days and this morning she is really going at it (although I can't imagine she's what's keeping me awake). As has been described to me, the movement feels like bubbles. Almost like gas bubbles but in the wrong place--they are in the front of my belly so don't feel quite like gas. It's pretty amazing. So, if I'm going to be awake at this ridiculous hour, it's kind of cute that the baby is keeping me company :)

Monday, November 7, 2011

It's a Girl!

It's a girl!!! And according to the ultrasound tech, the anatomy scan looks good. We got to see her head, spine, ribs, hands and feet, arms and legs, brain, bladder, heart beating (and heart chambers), her lady parts, and probably others that I'm forgetting in all the excitement. Her size and heart rate are right on target for her age. Below is a picture from this morning's ultra sound.

The annoying part of the visit was that we then had to wait over an hour to see the OB. I'm not even sure what the appt was supposed to be for, but she never showed. After waiting an hour, I asked whether we could at least get bloodwork done in the meantime. They looked at me like I was a crazy person. But DH was there and we want to use as little of his personal days as possible so we can save them for when the baby comes. Not waste them sitting in the OB's waiting room. So I pressed the issue and they let me get the blood drawn. But they were very rude. They didn't seem to understand that I was asking why patients aren't notified when the OB has to go deliver a baby (that's where she was) so we can choose to reschedule if our schedules don't permit us to sit for hours in the waiting room. They somehow interpreted this question as me being belligerent or something. So we never got to these the OB. Hope the appt wasn't important. Seems to me the important thing was to do the scan and get the bloodwork done. But wow the experience made me realize (yet again) how most MD's suck and have no respect for their patients. And how wonderful CCRM is in that they treat their patients like people not like $$.

So DH and I are trying to not let the bad experience with the stupid OB affect how happy we are that we're having a little girl and that she's healthy!!!